While this decision is a setback here in North Carolina, there was an upside. The court decision also affirmed gay joint custody, which was decided by the Court of Appeals a couple of years ago.
If you're a co-parent, go here for a roadmap on how to take affirmative action - by your behavior, by conveying your intentions clearly to each other, by your agreements with each other, and by what you put in writing - to codify your desire to serve as co-parents.
Obviously you should consult a lawyer for creating legal agreements. The important thing, however, is to take steps now to show your intention to raise your kid(s) together.
In the meantime, however, share the joy (and hassle) of other LGBT families raising their children:
- Celebrating All Families, celebratingallfamilies.
- Dads in the Burbs, dadsintheburbs.blogspot.com/
- Jesus has Two Daddies, jesushas2daddies.blogspot.com/
- Julie Shapiro (a lawyer’s blog on L/G adoption), julieshapiro.wordpress.com/
- Me and She, me-n-she.blogspot.com/
- Mother Issues, motherissues.wordpress.com/
- My Two Dads, patrickandcarl.blogspot.com/
- Those Two Daddies, thosetwodaddies.blogspot.com/
- Two Dads, One Girl, twodadsonegirl.blogspot.com/